One mother has expressed she likes to ask her baby when she is going to change their nappy. She feels all mothers should ask permission before tickling or playing with their children. Would you agree?
Lottie Daley is a mom herself and the debate transpired following a comment from her friend Russell Brand, who said he would “punch” anyone who tried to tickle his daughters.
Lottie states the way we learn about autonomy over our own bodies, and how we learn to give consent when we grow up, starts at birth.
Lottie argues we should allow kids to become aware that their body own is theirs, and not ours. “When you start learning about body autonomy and consent for our children when they become a bit older, we should be modelling this behaviour from birth, like letting your baby know you are changing its nappy.
Rather than asking them for a definitive ‘no’ or ‘yes’, answer we should ensure we are checking that our kids are aware of what’s going on. Lottie continues, arguing that ‘giving permission’ is something which should be discussed and addressed long before our kids become teens.
Lottie elaborates more on ways we can tackle these topics with our kids. For example, she explains the way her own daughters tend to feel uncomfortable about anyone other than their mother tickling them. She asks her own daughters whether they enjoy being tickled and the response is “yes”.
However the girls say “no” when asked if she is comfortable with anyone else tickling her. It’s because they’re apprehensive about somebone else who isn’t their mother.
Another guest Vanessa Feltz on “This Morning” didn’t necessarily agree. Vanessa believed tickling a child is a simple way to express love. She believes not being allowed to tickle a kid is sad simply because that kid feels they aren’t comfortable with it.
Vanessa Feltz said : “I think it’s an absolute shame to say you can’t tickle.
“You don’t tickle someone you don’t know or a child who doesn’t trust you… and start forcibly tickling. But it is the ultimate innocent love, care, fun, physical contact with a child you love and who loves you.”
She argues tickling is innocent physical interaction with a child which only shows playfulness and care which demonstrate love to a kid. Vanessa doesn’t believe it’s an invasion of their autonomy or space.
What are your thoughts on this tickling debate?
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